Sex is such a touchy subject. I mean one persons hell is often another persons heaven. Some people enjoy it some don't. I like the rule of it works for you, do it.
I mean I read this article about this porn star in Asia who had sex with 500 guys in 24 hours. She said she enjoyed being treated like a piece of meat. Granted, that's a pretty extreme example. On the other hand, I know someone else who never had sex until he was 23. Another person hasn't touched a man in years, she has no need to have sex. My point is that I like to think in terms of what works for you. What do I feel more magic in when it's all said and done, thats just the way I think. I personally am not of the school of thought that says one has to have a orgasm EVERY time one does a ritual. I just have found if I have had an orgasm within a day of having a ritual, that more things happen magically. So I do think sex is an important part of magic for MY life. Also it's just a lot of fun.