Great article from martialtalk.com. Thought I'd share.
If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail
lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy.
The driver won't see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
(1.) The three reasons women are easy targets for random acts of
(a.) Lack of Awareness: You MUST know where you are & what's going on
(b.) Body Language: Keep your head up, swing your arms, stand straight up.
(c.) Wrong Place, Wrong Time: DON'T walk alone in an alley, or drive in a
bad neighborhood at night.
(2.) Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating,
working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list,
DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect
opportunity for him to get in the passenger side, put a gun to your head,
and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS
(a.) A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking
garage: Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger
side floor, and in the back seat.
(b.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger
door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their
vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
(c.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the
passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car,
you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman
to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (Better
paranoid than dead.)
(3.) ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are
horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).
(a.) Do not get on an elevator if there is a weirdo already on there.
(Of course bad men don't always look bad).
(b.) Do not stand back in the corners of the elevator; be near the front,
by the doors, ready to get off or on.
(c.) If you get on the elevator on the 25th floor, and the Boogie Man gets
on the 22nd, get off when he gets on and wait for another elevator.
(4) If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS
(a.) Police make only 4 of 10 shots when they are in range of 3-9
feet. This is due to stress.
(b.) The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times.
And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
(5.) As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get
you raped, or killed.
(a.) Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good looking, well-educated man,
who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with
a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his
vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
(b.) Pat Malone told us the story of his daughter, who came out of the mall
and was walking to her car when she noticed 2 older ladies in front of
her. Then she saw a police car come towards her with cops who said
hello. She also noticed that all 8 handicap spots in the area were
empty. As she neared her car she saw a man a few rows over calling to her
for help. He wanted her to close his passenger side door. He was sitting
in the driver's side, and said he was handicapped. He continued calling,
until she turned and headed back to the mall, and then he began cursing at
her. In the meantime, she wondered why he didn't ask the 2 older
the policeman for help, and why he was not parked in any of the empty
spots. As she got back to the mall, two male friends of hers were exiting,
and as she told them the story, and turned to point at the car, the man was
in the back seat, and quickly moved back to the front and sped away.
(6.). Tips to saving your life, if you have gotten into a violent
(a.) REACT IMMEDIATELY. If he abducts you in a parking lot, and is taking
you to an abandoned area, DON'T LET HIM GET YOU TO THAT AREA. If you are
driving, react immediately in the situation, and crash your car while still
going 5 mph. If he's driving, find the right time, and stick your fingers
in his eyes. He must watch the road, so choose an unsuspecting time, and
gouge him. It is your ONLY defense. While he is in shock, GET OUT.
(This sounds gross, but the alternative is your fault if you do not act.)
(b.) RESIST. Don't go along with him: run, if you are able: DON'T EVER
GIVE UP! You DO NOT want to get to a crime scene.
(7.) Always keep your distance when walking past strangers on the street or
in dark areas.
(8.) BREAK DOWNS: Make every effort to avoid this by ALWAYS keeping your
car in good working order.
(a.) If your car breaks down and you have a cell phone: LOCK YOUR DOORS.
Then call for help.
(b.) If it's noon on a business day in a populated area, you may want to
put your hazards on and walk to safety.
(c.) If it's 2am near a populated area, put on your warm clothes, and walk
to a lighted area. You are a perfect target if you are sitting in your car
when it's broken down. Predators search the highways for easy targets like
(d.) If you're on a desolate road: walk away from the car (in your warm
clothes) and go to some bushes, or some area AWAY from your vehicle. It
will be cold, and uncomfortable, but you DO NOT want to stay in your car,
and there are no psycho bogeymen waiting in the bushes who just knew you
were going to break down there and then.
(9.) Physical defenses that we can use against the violent predator:
(a.) The EYES are the most vulnerable part of the body. Poke him there.
HARD. It may be your only window of opportunity.
(b.) The neck is also a vulnerable spot, but you MUST know where to grip,
AND HAVE THE STRENGTH to cut off his breath.
(c.) The last place is the KNEES. Everyone's knees are very vulnerable,
and a swift kick here will take anyone down.
-- A cautionary note about these things. If you do not do these things
right the first time, you are in trouble, because it will only anger the
individual, and that anger will be TAKEN OUT ON YOU. I'm not saying don't
attempt them (it may be your only hope), but be forceful when you do.
(10.) If you are walking alone in the dark (which you shouldn't be) and you
find him following/chasing you:
(a.) Scream "FIRE!", and not, "Help!". People don't want to get involved
when people yell "help," but "fire" draws attention because people are
(c.) Find an obstacle, such as a parked car, and run around it, like Ring
Around the Rosie. This may sound silly, but over the years, 5 women have
told Pat Malone that this SAVED THEIR LIVES.
(d.) Your last hope is getting under the car. Once you are under there,
there are tons of things to hold on to, and he will not be able to get you
out unless he comes under after you (which makes it easier for you to
escape or fend him off). Usually they give up by this point. The catch
here is that YOU MUST PRACTICE GETTING UNDER THE CAR. You must have a plan
(he will have one); know if you will be going on your back, front, from the
side or back of the car. It must be practiced.
(11.) Never let yourself or anyone that you know be a "closer" in any type
of business (bar, store, restaurant, gas station). Pat knew Danielle, who
was a girl that just died from being shot pointblank by some kids while she
was closing at the local gas station. He talked with her the night before
she died, and asked whether it ever scared her to close alone.
She said yes, but said, "I'll be all right, Pat. I'll be all right." She
Our world is not as safe as we pretend that it is, and living in our
fantasy worlds WILL get us in trouble, sooner or later. Pat Malone said,
again and again, that the women who die EVERY MINUTE from violent crime
expected to go to bed tonight, and get up tomorrow = No one expects it, we
must but be prepared and be aware so that we HAVE A PLAN. BE PREPARED TO
ACT! AND ACT HARD! HAVE A PLAN!
I would encourage you to pass this on to all women, not just your friends
and family, but everybody. We all need to hear it.