It's like you said last night, primary and secondary emotional reactions often coincide, however, the primary is not a necessitative of the secondary.
Taking that even further, I think that being cognitively aware of the factors necessary to elicit the primary function can make it possible to negate it all together.
To support your theory even further is the observable nature of a newborn.
Newborns are not born into the world with instinctual triggers related to societal standards.
A newborn wouldn't know that he/she was 'required' to feel anger, disgust, frustration, fear, envy, hatred or any other emotion for that matter.
All cues are learned behaviour through experience, expectation and cultural demand.
But I digress, we agree and this was just some rambling on my part.