Thanks for the kind comments.

You can "read all about it" in Albert Ellis's many, many books, however.

I didn't invent it but, like any good tool, I'm pleased to pass it along!

More usually just a rationalization.

To have to admit that you create and choose anger is to be willing to be responsible for it.

And that is dangerous territory for a large percentage of the human species!

It's like you said last night, primary and secondary emotional reactions often coincide, however, the primary is not a necessitative of the secondary.

Taking that even further, I think that being cognitively aware of the factors necessary to elicit the primary function can make it possible to negate it all together.

To support your theory even further is the observable nature of a newborn.

Newborns are not born into the world with instinctual triggers related to societal standards.

A newborn wouldn't know that he/she was 'required' to feel anger, disgust, frustration, fear, envy, hatred or any other emotion for that matter.

All cues are learned behaviour through experience, expectation and cultural demand.

But I digress, we agree and this was just some rambling on my part.

Once you realize that you yourself have created the anger and are willing to do something about it the responsible thing to do would be to start learning a little self control. You may want to practice some deep breathing techniques this can keep you focused and in control, thereby helping to separate yourself from the emotion and understand that you have the power to do so.

It is still always a good idea to know self defense.

Violence is counter-productive and does not solve your problems. Losing control only weakens you. What is to be gained from this? Is hurting another and/or yourself a solution to your undisciplined emotions? Does prison and/or lawsuits sound like an attractive bargain?

What is the point?

What benefits you?

What is the gain?

Anger is better suited for the Ritual Chamber, where it can be utilized to effect changes that will not come down upon you in a negative way. Even then, it should be justified anger.. for justice.

Wanton anger, in my opinion is weakness. I've been there. That road leads to nowhere.

Work on your powers of manipulation to control those who cause you anger. Be the master of your emotions, not a slave to them.

Then you may realize that most humans are not important enough to waste such vital energy on. The energy you waste on them could be applied to achieving your own happiness.

Anger is just a point before your eyes.

Of course, I am also probably wasting my energy here on you, seeing that you are not replying to anyone who has answered your thread. I shouldn't bother at all, but perhaps my reply will benefit others reading this thread.

You may also find my post I made a while back called a lesson learned. Here is the link

http://www.satannet.com/lttd/showflat.php?Cat=0&Number=317124&page=0&fpart=1&vc=1