For you I have a very specific question. Are all the symptoms you described that seem to put us under some sort of spell, only caused by feelings of lust or infatuation? Then when in lust we have much more to lose??...H
ow many of us have not reached absurd levels of stupidity when in "love"? The word pathetic underestimates what some of us will do for the sake of someone else(this someone else is most often a parasite like person). This feeling of emptiness is what may often drive us to the better and less harmfull option of insensitivity and avoiding love completely. But what you say confuses me...is lust even more harmful? It's not love that makes us blind but lust? Damn....then what choices are there?