I have had a situation in my life where I was with my fiance' and I was happy. I was with her when I discovered my Satanic nature with the doctor's philosophy. She loves to party all the time, smoke weed, have sex every other night; not really worrying about the world around her and how she needs to get a good job, get good pay, get medical bills, you know... move on up in the work force and life. I have the desire to do so, and am not very focused on partying as much because I need money so I can move out and get an apartment and eventually focus on something better like hot cars, big houses, inground pool things like that. I basically waited on her hand and foot because I loved her like a husband would his wife. She never gave me the same consideration back and put even her roommate's dog before me because she saw that dog as "her baby" and I expected the consideration until I read the Satanic Sins. I treated her the way she treated me, and eventually, it got worse and worse. She left me for my ex friend because I was "yelling at her all the time" and she slowly lost love for me since the mid-term of our 1 1/2 year relationship. My question is: What could I have done differently? I do what I believe in but at the same time, it was like I fought fire with fire and instead of extinguishing, I created more fire. We didn't have a very good communication because we both said to each other that niether one of us would listen. This really isn't personal for me because it's in the past, but I want to know which one of us were in the wrong so I could learn from any mistakes that I must have made. If I am not in the wrong, then why learn from "mistakes" when they are justified according to the situation? I would like to have your opinions, thank you.

It sounds like you wanted completely different things, so you weren't right for each other. No one was right or wrong.

You should know what you want before you get into a relationship and only get into it if you can achieve these things. Do not get into a relationship and try and mould the other party into what you want, that is just silly.

No one can answer this question better than you can though, I was not there, only you know the details.

What could you have done differently? Left earlier and/ or taken the chapter in the Satanic Bible on Psychic Vampires to heart sooner.

Why do you think you made a mistake?

DING DING DING warning bells go off! I know you heard them! (Nothing wrong with the sex part though)



Good for you! Go out and get em!



Love can be 'blind' and We oft times deceive ourselves in thinking love is love when it is actually 'self deceit'.



Good! Let HIM keep her!



Nothing. If she's a pot head loser and you aren't? NOTHING. The only thing you could do was leave. Luckily she solved that problem for you by leaving herself.



Did you? Or did she flame the fires by her behavior which, at this point became unacceptable to you?



Come now. It isn't? No it IS VERY PERSONAL otherwise, you wouldn't be asking about it here.



Let's see. She was a druggie, she had no goals, she left you for your friend. I'm not letting you off the hook mind you as everyone knows there are always TWO sides to every coin, however, if she IS as you have painted her, I don't think you should even have to ask this question.




Mistakes are NEVER justified. They are called 'mistakes' and it IS very important to not only learn from them, but to not repeat them.

There you have it for what it's worth, or not worth. My opinion.

Sounds like you had a girl who thought her pussy was enough payment for your generosity. I suppose I don't need to State the obvious about that X of yours.
I think you just have to decide what kind of relationship you want to have or "tolerate". If she treats you lame and you treat her lame in return than I would hope you enjoyed being treated that way, if not than end the relationship. It’s not difficult to make a girl want to stay just by making sure she knows at anytime she could be history. But this is about what you want. So do what you do.

Just make sure it or “she” is worth doing.

People have this strange habit of trying to make terrible relationships work.

If you took a drink of milk and it was sour, would you continue to drink it simply because you love milk?

Go out and get a new jug.

Could you possibly be any more CRASS in your responses?

crass /kræs/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[kras] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
–adjective, -er, -est. 1. without refinement, delicacy, or sensitivity; gross; obtuse; stupid: crass commercialism; a crass misrepresentation of the facts.
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So crude and unrefined as to be lacking in discrimination and sensibility.

First off, you really need to change your user name - your using LordofDarkness is simply insulting to all the real LordsofDarkness out there. I'm sure they wouldn't appreciate you sullying the title.

Secondly:

Listen and Learn.

You may not be trying but you always make Me smile!

crass [krӕs] adjective

very obvious or very great

I suppose I could

Knock yourself out....

You coulda left. Why didn't you? Why'd you stick around to "fight fire with fire" when you could have evacuated the burning building?

"Treat others like they treat you" doesn't mean "hang around while they treat you bad, so you have an excuse to treat them bad back". It means, don't take their shit. You took her shit and then served her up some of your own. Sounds like a big ol' waste of a chunk of life you'll never get back.

You said it all. The sooner the better.
There nothing as painful as a slow indigestion.

october1560

My Father once told Me.....

"It's better to have a nice clean break than a long slow bend".

When I was younger I never thought I would admit this but: My Dad is a pretty smart fella'.

What could you have done differently? The moment you realized that you weren't getting as much out of the relationship as you were putting in, rather than treating her the same as she was treating you to "give her a taste of her own medicine", you could have done something a bit more productive for yourself. Thinking, "She treats me like shit, so I'll just treat her like shit too," only produces a relationship where two people treat each other like shit. Who would ever want that? Instead, I would have either just politely said goodbye then and there (politely to avoid the ol' "Hell hath no furry...") and sought out something more suited for me, or, if I felt she was worth it and capable of change, I'd sit her down and seriously tell her my greivances. If she took it to heart and showed improvement, I'd evaluate the situation again and see if the relationship was becoming something good.

Here are some tips for next time:

If you "fall in love" again, be honest with yourself and find out if you are in love with the girl you are with, or just the idea of having a girl to be with. There is a difference. If you love her, have some good reasons why.

If you are looking for a serious relationship that will work, avoid party girls.

No matter what you are looking for, avoid girls (and people in general) who are into illegal activities. Inviting them into your life is asking for trouble, and you'll eventually get what you deserve for being stupid enuogh to associate with them.

You shouldn't have to ask for, demand, beg, etc. for consideration and attention in a relationship. If they aren't interested enough, nor care enough to do that on their own, find someone who is.

Love is wonderful, but don't let it blind you.