You always could just slip by "accident". They just head anywhere but one of two Forums, the Required Introduction Forum and the Questions about the Church of Satan Forum, then go click, and say bye. Though that's just an Idea.

But...then we wouldn't be able to shake our chili peppers at them.

Takes some of the fun away I realize, though it was just a thought.

Though could you imagine someone's face when they discover that had happened.

Actually, I believe that may be a felony in some states.

Maybe so, but it's just a thought. Would I actually be so mean, not really. I tend to like to give people chances in case there were any misunderstandings. We're not perfect after all, and I would certainly not want to see someone who is here. In a way they'd be saying they were finished.

I thought of a couple of funny things to say...you know, like, if you don't want to see that, do not check out my picture, or something to that effect; but I will not...because that was actually a good thought. I like the last sentence.

Here's something you could try: if you don't want to be stepped on in your daily life, satisfy your need to be dominated in the bedroom.

For example: my girlfriend is very submissive in the bedroom; she gets it "out of her system", if you will, by letting me be her master during sex...this satisfies her submissive side completely, so that in her daily life she is very assertive and firm, i.e. she takes no sh** from ANYONE, and she NEVER gets stepped on. I think this is a very healthy practice, and it works for her...maybe it would work for you too.

Yep, same here. Still a valid point.

My turn to add some ideas:

I'd say that if they attempt to take advantage of you, they do it because they think they have a chance. In other words - you show signs of weakness. I believe you can't change who you are, but you can change how others see you. Instead, change your attitude by reviewing yourself and try to think of why they see you in this light. The next time you meet a new person, try not to show the things you think might be the reason to their attempts. I don't think this is changing ones personality, it's just being more.. cautious.

For me, who is a caring, thoughtful, kind person, I've found that instead of trying to toughen up, simply not "putting it out there" has helped. You won't give them a chance if they can't sense it. I haven't been in a situation where anyone tried to use me like that since I realized this (which fortunately was early in life). I don't show my nice/fragile side until I feel that people deserve it. Make them earn it. This doesn't mean becoming an introvert or being rude in anyway, but being more.. obejctive (right word?) in a situation. Be yourself but await the is-this-an-asshole-person-results before you reveal more. It isn't being afraid - I just see it as "Why should I waste my finer sides on you - I don't know you". I also think people have more respect for people who can "handle being very nice", without giving too much of it.

Not sure if I made much sense to you, but I think it's a sound way of keeping on being the soft and nice you. Save it for your loved ones!

And oh! It's also fun when people aren't sure what to expect from you. You'll see if you try.

Too submissive? Why, there ain't no such thing, hehe

That said, you are experiencing the negative effects of a personality that you happen to possess, but don't think the grass is greener on the other side. A more assertive person can be bolder in interaction, but also falls harder as well, and risk looking stupid.

We've all seen what happens when people unsuited to positions of authority start barking orders, they're everywhere these days.

You are not your personality.

What do you want to do?

How do you want to behave?

I would suggest that context is everything to determine what behaviors are best suited for the outcomes you desire.

However you cannot change your "nature".

Your "nature" is not your personality.

Change what you do and you will change how you feel.

But choose carefully.

Why oh why am I reminded of the film 'Fight Club' when I read the words you have penned?

Oh, by the way...one of My most favourite films ever.

You are not your job....your this....your that....

Indeed good Sir.

"You are not how much money you have in the bank. You are not the shoes that you wear. You are not the contents of your wallet. You are not your job."

"You choose you're level of involvement. I won't make decisions for you."

"The things you own, they end up owning you."

"I am Jack's Complete Lack of Surprise."

Oh yeh, one of my favourite movies as well.

(Sorry a bit off topic...)

I knew I would see you here.

You ARE Jack and I simply adore that!

Want to go make some soap with Me?

Come to delaware.. Jack's house is here! the one they modeled the one in the film on. its all here... ill post a picture of the house. Its in a Little better shape but not much.. sorry still off topic