One of my male friends once caught his girlfriend in faking an orgasm, and he was confused and upset a long time after.
I don't want to create that kind of confusion in my relationship....
Each to their own, this is just me in my relationship with this man. It certainly won't be right for everyone. It's whatever floats YOUR boat, and depends entirely on the people and the situation. But I am definately not closed to the idea of faking orgasms, as I personally don't see it as being any different than faking any other response.
Also (just for the record) it's not something I would do often (a couple of times a year, on average). We're very, erm, compatable in bed (I'm a lucky girl!
- Of course a relationship is give and take, but it's NOT creative to lose yourself. If you can't be yourself inside your relationship, then it's just not worth it.
I don't think faking an orgasm is losing oneself in deceptiveness. But others hold the orgasm as a more sacred thing, and I can appreciate that
Perhaps that is the main difference here...
I like to have a bit of mystery with a partner, especially if some of these things prevent me having my balls roasted on an open fire in a break-up. If it's clear it will last for the long haul then obviously trust grows and more is revealed. It isn't that the relationship is 'created' on trust, my opinion is that is a silly comment.
True, not created on trust, but definately the trust has to be there as a cornerstone for a serious relationship. And a bit of mystery is important to keep them guessing!
Something along the lines of a pleasing fantasy is better than a troubled reality.
As long as one does not lose sight of reality, fantasy has a great place in the bedroon... And I'm not just talking about orgasms either