If you play this game right you can to a great extent play the psychological complex of prejudice and stereotyping like it was a musical instrument.
I really like how you phrased this!
Some people spend their lifetime being enigmatic, never divulging their "true" self to anyone but maybe their spouse and a very intimate circle of old friends. Isn't it ironic when two people meet and they then walk away, both having successfully deceived the other?
Naturally, everyone welcomes being overestimated -- having one's skills, talents, or attributes exaggerated in a positive light, granting a higher degree of respect than actually earned. By the same token, being underestimated
may also work to one's advantage. This is just another example of the age old "wolf in sheep's clothing" cliche. Using this ruse one can remain "under the radar" and go unscrutinized. And when the time does come to show more of one's "true colors," the element of surprise is an ally.
Conceal, Confuse, Deceive.
"The difference between the man or woman who's a practicing Satanist, from an identity Satanist is that the practicing Satanist looks at the picture, while the identity Satanist studies the frame."
-- Anton Szandor LaVey
"Anyone without a sense of humor is too pretentious to be a good magician."
-- Anton Szandor LaVeyLife EverlastingWorld Without End