I find some of the methods of NLP to be useful tools in Lesser/Greater Magic, but I don't buy into any of the egalitarian dogmas espoused by its leading proponents.
Yes the egalitarianism of NLP books, especially NLP for Dummies (which is still a good starting point)is rampant, for many of them it's quite easy to disregard it and replace with a useful realistic and Satanic perspective.
I have found that treating others based on how they have treated you does not render NLP useless.
In terms of lesser magic, I think Dale Carnegie's "How to win friends and influence people" is by far some of the best material you can read and apply.
I do have this and have read it many times, I have crossed out some areas and highlighted others. It's quite battle hardened little paperback. I was not impressed with the Digital Age version but it had some helpful pointers.
I would recommend you to read this article:
PRETENDERS TO THE THRONE
Janina, I have read Pretenders to The Throne
it was great, it actually kept me from buying into some of the Temple of Set's pseudo-philosophy. It was the straw that broke the camel's back, the rest was that their views are too damn confusing. I had a hard time reading through the article on Radical Constructivism, it was just...wow.
The Skeptical Perspecive on this is helpful as well, I am always questioning and I have found Bandler's book to not be very helpful. However the NLP for Dummies has a workbook for the learners who need to work thought the concepts, and Quantum NLP by Christiane Turner is not to bad either. Nonetheless, I never let these concepts (NLP or "New Age Support Groups") become an obstacle to the notion that I am a Satanist and if I want to achieve something I can do it and I will be successful if I work hard and do it right. Satanists are the highest embodiment of Evolutionary Life and NLP can't overshadow this, it's merely a tool.