This is quite a memorable essay you have brought up, Tier Instinct.
It is not necessary to rape, assault or verbally abuse.
I make women wet their pants.
When I was a teenager I was in fact "too nice." It took me a while to learn to take charge and "seal the deal." Since then I have almost always played the father role in all of my relationships -- even in instances when the girl has been older then me.
For me, I wouldn't say the "secret" has been a learned ability, but I will assert that I have had to learn what types of women I could be most successful with. Naturally, this goes back to the Balance Factor and knowing how to categorize oneself in Lesser Magic (sex, sentiment, wonder) and on the Synthesizer Clock.

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"The difference between the man or woman who's a practicing Satanist, from an identity Satanist is that the practicing Satanist looks at the picture, while the identity Satanist studies the frame."
-- Anton Szandor LaVey
"Anyone without a sense of humor is too pretentious to be a good magician."
-- Anton Szandor LaVey
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