This is one of the hardest issues to me. Over the years I have lost friends & close members of the family. Cases of terminal diseas in which death meant an end to incredible pain have been easier to cope with than sudden death as a result of accident. Still every single loss has cut a gap that cannot be filled again. Keeping these people alive in my memories has led to some relief.
Yet, admittedly, I have never made my peace with the Great Abstinence. More than anything else losing people I have held dear has enforced my contempt & hate against the grim reaper. It has caused me to use any opportunity I have to carry out my personal war against this prime foe. And I shall keep on doing so for as long as I'm part of the Great Indulgence.