I'll add that I did learn how to be attractive to the opposite sex midway through high school.
I learned to not be so "nice" and to be more assertive and masculine and a bit mysterious.
Never became mean, but became "not a suck-up" essentially.
Then when I read The Satanic Witch I learned of the Majority/Demonic self concepts and personality typing, and that helped me understand why I was repeatadly attracted to a specific type of gal.
And acting up my type, using what I have and am WELL, helps enormously...
Right Behind You: Tales of the Spooky and Strange,
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